Everyday sex is like our staple food. But don’t most of us have fast food in a while? Does that mean looking at another partner for sex once in a while? No. Then what could be the implied meaning of fast food here? Every day love making for sure gets monotonous if not boring over a period. Now that you have tried almost all the positions that you wanted to and have had enough of them, what next? Try Role-playing!
Definition wise, role playing is a technique that requires you to enact a fantasy character along with your partner, behave as that character would in bed and culminate the love making being in the character only. This technique is used to stir up the close-to-death physical relationships. It infuses a new spark in the relationship as it allows you to live your fantasies and also gives a good break from the monotony. It does not get boring as there are number of characters that you can play are numerous. The challenge and excitement of getting into the shoes of a new character is a mind occupying activity and sustains the interest on two different levels – mental & sexual.
But before you get going, read through some important stuff:
Before you think of role-playing to spite it up under the sheet, you should be very clear about why are you trying it and what kind of results are you looking forward too. This is a very good way to kill the repetitive nature in your lovemaking style, but at the same time, it might just backfire and not give you the kind of results that you are looking for. The technique might fail for a number of reasons. So just be careful about what you expect from this new interesting style and then march ahead to the next step.
You need to make sure of your partner’s readiness for the act. To make it a successful attempt to rekindle the once-upon-a-time magic in your sex life, it is very important that both the partner’s are absolutely comfortable with the idea of role playing as well as the individual theme chosen. Not everyone is readily game for role-playing. Many people think of it as unnatural, while others might have apprehensions or sheer discomfort playing someone else in an intimate relationship. Check with your partner if he or she likes the idea and would like to proceed with it. If there are any apprehensions or doubts, wait till all of them are settled.
Choose the theme
Once the above two things are settled, the next step is to list down at least 3 of your fantasies. Both of the partner’s should write their own ideas, and then discuss them to decide on the one that goes well with both. In case you haven’t really thought of anything ever you can also have a look at the popular thematic characters that have been tried and tested by many couples for successful results. Some the common day roles are:
Doctor & Nurse
Boss & Secretary
Sexy cop & her Catch
Vampire & his prey
There are many more themes that you can choose from, apart from the listed six.
After the theme is decided it is very important to pick up the right kind of clothes that make it seem real time. Do not pick up funny clothes as it may spoil the mood completely. You can rent the clothes and add accessories of your own, so that it doesn’t cost much to your pocket and looks real too.
Catch The Character
Don not laugh giggle or make it funny! It is very important to get into the skin of the character and play your role with complete honestly. Only then the technique is going to work. Be the perfect mix of what your partner wants you to be and the character. Be rough, mad, pervert, aggressive, cheeky, bossy or compromising as per the demands of the character.
Do not leave the Character
Do not be yourself till you are asleep. Don’t just let role-playing be a stimulating exercise and wait for the act to finish. Do it willingly and be the character till you guys are deep into the dream world.
Take Cues, Be Sensitive!
Role-playing technique requires you to play a lot of characters that are not loving or kind. While enacting your part, do not forget to always be sensitive to the cues your partner gives you. At any point during the act, he or she might not be comfortable or might be getting hurt. Be sensitive to these things, as they tend to spoil all the fun of the act. Remember the purpose of the act at such times. It is to make lovemaking a spicier and happier experience, and not to hurt or overpower each other.
If you want your intimacy to raise itself a level upwards, just spice it with role-playing and share your experiences with sex education for sure!
Catch The Character